Persons In Love

Temptation of Wife.  The Fierce Wife.  No Other Woman.  The Legal Wife.  My Husband’s Lover.

                “Ang mundo ay isang malaking Quiapo. Maraming snatcher. Maagawan ka. Lumaban ka!” (Carmi Martin, No Other Woman)

                No, I don’t mean to talk about love.  This is about the persons in love.

                The split-headed man.  You love her.  You like the other one.  You’re attracted to this one.  Until now, I don’t really understand why men look at different girls when they are already committed.  They say it’s their nature.  I agree that we’re part of the environment but I don’t think of unfaithfulness as an inborn character.  They say it’s just a look.  Well, a look becomes stare, a stare craves for talk, talk desires communication, constant communication longs for touch, and touch goes to...  Yeah, it’s just a look, isn't it?

                The bed spacer.  You like him.  You love him.  Worst, you love him so much.  Your days and nights are in moments of him.  You’re willing to sacrifice.  You’re willing to wait.  You’re willing to share even with the least attention he could give.  You do everything, anything, to please him.  You knew it in the first place that you shouldn't be involved but you've let yourself in.  You entertained him.  Or, was it the other way around?

The legal paranoid.  You love him.  He’s your life.  You've been together through the years.  You have so much experiences together you don’t want to let go.  You regret things.  You think about your plans in the future.  You think about your sweet and happy moments when suddenly the pang of what you've learned bites you.  You still love him but you can’t trust him.  It’s 10:00 pm.  He hasn't called yet.  What is he doing.  Where is he.  Who is he with.  Before, you changed yourself to meet his expectations.  Do you really want to change yourself again for the better or to compete with the other one?

Recently, I've been too much attracted with an impressive, good-looking, humorous man, several years older than me.  He was so thoughtful that he woke me up every morning and drove me to school so I would not be late.  He was very caring for he even cooked and prepared lunch and dinner for me.  He called every night to check up on me and share his whole-day story.  I learned to accept his personality, his flaws, and his lies. 

“This is looking like a contest,
Of who can act like they care less,
But I liked it better when you were on my side.
The battle's in your hands now,
But I would lay my armor down
If you said you'd rather love than fight.
So many things that you wished I knew,
But the story of us might be ending soon.”

Since I couldn't tell you what happened next, let me just share what I've learned.

To retain loyalty and faithfulness, make a vow with your eyes.  Do not compare.  Tell her what you want and what you don’t.  Say it with love and tenderness.  Make sure she understands.  Don’t praise her when you mean she’s so fat.  She might have misunderstood.  If she’s so tight or too loose, let her know.  Don’t just stay away or wait for her to recognize.  Say it.  Believe me, if she loves you, she’ll consider a change.

Love yourself but not too much.  Consider other person first.  Have fear and respect on the sacredness of marriage and relationship.  Have dignity.  You could have your own.  Someone better.  You shouldn't submit yourself to someone who wouldn't be yours.  You are not an option.  Sometimes, it’s not bad to listen to your friends’ advice.  Do not blind yourself.  Love defined as blind is a cliche.  

Love will never be happy without trust.  Our imperfection leads us to doubt.   You cannot say you have forgiven someone’s sin when you still think of the mistake and bring it on the next quarrel.  You cannot be certain that the one who chooses you will not choose another one at the end of the day.  You should not regret six years or more if it would mean a lifetime suffering.  You can fight, when there’s something worth fighting for.  Set boundaries.  Do not lean upon your own understanding.  (Proverbs 3: 5,6)

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It’s Not an Impossible Dream – Your Desired Life Under the Perfect Government

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Tutorial 101 Stenography

When tape recorders, cell phones, tablets, and other form of recording gadgets were not yet in the scene, a form of writing was developed to make jotting down dictations faster and lighter task. 

It was in AD 155 when Egypt received a message from Cicero’s secretary, Marcus Tullius Tiro.  The message was written in a system of writing which Tiro himself devised.  It was known as Tironian notes, a “widely practiced craft” in ancient Rome.  During the medieval era, this system of writing died out but was revived by Sir Isaac Pitman in 1837.  He based the shorthand writing on its phonetic classification.  In 1885, John Robert Gregg’s shorthand predominated United States and Canada for its simplicity and uniformity.  (Grolier Encyclopaedia of Knowledge, 1991).  Gregg shorthand is also known as stenography.

Stenography or shorthand writing is a system of writing based on sounds.  It uses lines, periods and curves to represent a letter or a set of words.  Years ago, shorthand writing had been widely used by stenographers in companies and courts.  Today, there are some colleges and universities offering this subject under Computer Secretarial and Business Education courses.

Many students view writing and reading stenography as a bloody process for the mind.  But it isn’t!  You know, it only becomes so difficult if you view it that way.  Even in the rise of technology, knowledge in stenography is still an advantage.  If you have studied it before and you’re currently disagreeing with what I’ve said, give yourself another chance to review it now.

Before we begin, close your eyes for a minute or two (be careful not to fall into sleep, huh?)  and imagine yourself like a  leaf swimming in a calm river.  The water brings you smoothly to and fro, up and down, embracing the rocks, and sliding from ducks.  It’s like dancing in the tune of a sweet melody, isn’t it?  That is how you will feel as you understand stenography.

Let us start reading the English vowels.  (See figure 1.1)

Figure 1.1

The medium sized circle is an A.  It has the sound of an a (fat), ӓ (car), ӑ (ape), and а (bare).

The smaller circle is an E.  It represents the sound of e (ten), ē (even), e (here), and ӗr (over).

A broken circle with a little curl inside is an I as in bite, I am, like. 

An oval shaped open half-circle which looks like a broken egg represents the sound of O as in lot, go, and horn.

The other oval shaped closed half-circle which looks like a cover of a broken egg represents the sound of U (up), oo (book), and oo (tool).

Give yourself some moments to memorize each symbol first.  Then we’ll get to our first two consonant sounds.

___ A longer line written at the bottom is an M.

__ The shorter line written at the bottom is an N.

Try to read the words in figure 1.2.

Figure 1.2

Then, copy it on a separate sheet of paper.   You may use an intermediate or a yellow paper if a steno notebook is not available.

So, how was it?